Pride can make us feel
great, it can protect us from harm(so we think) but in spite of what it can
feel like, it can have a damaging impact on one’s relationship. Most people
are blind to their own pride, so it is quite difficult to get them to
understand how it is damaging to a relationship.
When I recall the earlier days of my relationship, I cringe, i cringe because I was so immature (I really was) in the way I communicated and
expressed/processed my feelings. I would project my feelings and issues onto my
man, leaving me with little or no responsibility, my pride would always affirm
that it was him who had to change to make everything better.
Sometimes people hurt us,
and as much as we may not want to admit it, our pride can be used as a tool to
hurt them back in a passive way. We feel the hurt and think to ourselves “I am
better than you” then we cut off ties and put up walls. Or the other way round,
we hurt/wrong someone in some way, but we are too proud to apologize for it,
fearing that it will somehow make us look weak, vulnerable or that the person
could shame us.
It is extremely easy to let
pride comfort us during conflict, and say that none of it was our fault. It is
also difficult to swallow our pride and be the first to apologize or discuss
the issue. Believe it or not pride has a lot to do with how we act in a
relationship, but unless one part steps forward and realize that their pride is
not worth letting the relationship fall apart, then the relationship risk
further problem.
Do you repeatedly fight with
your significant other just because of pride and ego problems? Or do you blame
each other during an argument? Before
you add more strain to your relationship, here are some reliable tips to avoid the
problem of pride in any relationship.
Listen: In the
past anger was my first response to hurt, argument, and disagreement to my
significant other, until I learnt how to listen now am able to identify what
the root issue is in the heat of the moment by listening. However I didn’t get
there overnight and I am still in progress
Don’t try to change
him/her: You have to be willing to change before trying to change someone
else. Don’t ever try to change somebody just because you want the person to fit
into the kind of life style you want. Nobody comes in complete package.
Learn to speak: do you know that a lot of problems will disappear or will be solved or avoided if we learn to speak to our significant other instead of talking back or talking about each other?
Don’t Judge
Be Humble
For the sake of our
relationship, friendship even marriage, we need to examine ourselves, take the
humble part by been the first to extent the olive branch, be the first to say
you are sorry, don’t let pride ruin your relationship. In the end, when we are
able to drop the pride, we do see the situation in a whole new light.
Comments are the Opinion of the Comment writers & does not reflect the views of Girlbestfriend
for sure pride kills relationship!....
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